Being the Only Woman in the Room: Navigating Leadership as a Female Executive Among Male Colleagues (Leadership Challenges Series 2/3)

For many female executives, one of the most challenging aspects of leadership is being the only woman in a room full of men. The dynamics in these situations can sometimes feel like you’re navigating invisible boundaries, where your ideas may be questioned, your authority might be subtly undermined, or your perspective could be overlooked. However, these challenges also present an opportunity to bring a fresh viewpoint, reshape cultural norms, and pave the way for future leaders.

Here are some strategies to help you navigate and thrive as a female leader among male colleagues.

1. Stand Firm in Your Expertise and Accomplishments.  As the only woman, you might feel pressure to “prove” yourself repeatedly, even after demonstrating your proficiencies. Instead, stand firm in your achievements. Resist the urge to minimize your contributions or downplay your success. Speak with confidence and conviction, letting your abilities speak for themselves. When you project self-assurance, others are more likely to respond with respect.

2. Leverage Your Unique Perspective.  Being the only woman allows you to bring a valuable, distinct perspective that might otherwise be missing in decision-making. Use this to your advantage. Your experiences, insights, and ideas are assets that can enhance the team’s strategy and broaden its viewpoints. Whether it’s about understanding diverse customers, advocating for inclusive policies, or simply offering a different take, your voice brings value that enriches the entire team. 

3. Create Alliances and Seek Allies.  Building alliances can be especially helpful in an environment where you’re the minority. Identify colleagues who respect and support your ideas, and look for opportunities to collaborate with them. These allies can help amplify your voice, advocate for your ideas, and offer support in meetings. Finding a mentor within the organization or in your industry can also be invaluable in navigating the nuances of being the only female executive. 

4. Communicate Clearly and Directly.  When leading in a male-dominated environment, clarity and assertiveness are key. Communicate your ideas directly, using concise language to convey your points. Practice speaking confidently and avoid qualifying language that might diminish your authority, such as “I just think…” or “Maybe…” Maintaining clear communication reinforces your credibility and makes your voice heard.

5. Navigate Interruptions and Assert Your Presence. Research has shown that women are often interrupted more than men in professional settings. If this happens, it’s crucial to maintain your presence. Politely but firmly reclaim the floor by saying, “If I can finish this last point and then I’d love to hear your idea” or if they have already interrupted, you can retake the stage by saying “If I can circle back to my point before shifting gears….” Establishing a strong presence ensures that your contributions are not overlooked and bolsters the importance of your input.

6. Use Emotional Intelligence to Build Connections.  Emotional intelligence is a key strength that can help you navigate complex team dynamics. Listening actively, empathizing with colleagues, and reading the room can enhance your ability to build strong connections. Leveraging your emotional intelligence allows you to gain allies, bridge communication gaps, and cultivate a collaborative environment that values diverse perspectives.

7. Lead by Example and Advocate for Inclusion.  As a trailblazer, you have the unique opportunity to set a positive example for future female leaders and to champion inclusion. By endorsing policies that support diversity, equity, and inclusion, you create a workplace culture where everyone feels valued. Being open about your experiences as the only woman in the room can foster dialogue and inspire change within the organization. 

Being the only woman in the room may present obstacles, but it also gives you a platform to lead with authenticity and influence change.  By asserting your expertise, building alliances, and communicating confidently, you can command respect and make a lasting impact. This journey requires resilience, self-assurance, and a dedication to lifting others as you rise.  Remember, you’re not only paving the way for your success but for the many female leaders who will follow in your footsteps. 

Question: Have you ever been the only in a room?  If so, how have you handled it? Comment and share below; we’d love to hear from you! 

Quote of the day: "Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence." – Sheryl Sandberg

The next blog in this series 3/3 will focus on another leadership challenge of leading former peers. 

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to sharpen their leadership skills, contact me to explore this topic further.

How Do You Lead as the Only in the Room?

Leading the Unfamiliar: Navigating Age, Expertise, and Intelligence in Leadership (Leadership Challenge Series 1/3)

Stepping into a leadership role is a major achievement, whether you’re a seasoned professional or newly promoted. But with the title comes the challenge of leading diverse teams—including those who may be older, more experienced, or even perceived as “smarter.” While these situations might seem daunting, they’re also incredible opportunities to grow as a leader and strengthen your team. Each scenario requires careful navigation rooted in trust, relationship-building, and an unwavering commitment to growth.

Let’s look at common leadership challenges and strategies to navigate them effectively.

Challenge #1:  Leading People Older Than You
When managing someone older, it’s natural to wonder if they’ll take you seriously, especially if there’s a significant age gap. As a younger leader, you might worry they’ll see your age as lacking experience or knowledge. This perception can lead to insecurities, but it’s essential to acknowledge your capabilities. Remember that you were promoted for a reason. Checking your doubts and showing confidence in your role can go a long way in establishing your authority without arrogance.

Strategies

·      Acknowledge Experience: Begin by recognizing their expertise and asking for their insights. This shows respect and opens the door for collaboration. Engaging in one-on-one conversations where you discuss team goals and solicit their input helps get everyone on the same page.

·      Be Confident, Yet Appropriately Vulnerable: Confidence and vulnerability are critical. Don’t shy away from admitting when you don’t know something. By being honest, you create space for mutual respect and demonstrate that you value their experience. 

·      Practice Generosity: Support their growth and celebrate their achievements. Leaders who generously share credit and give meaningful feedback cultivate trust and admiration. Recognize that older team members may have different needs or life responsibilities—do what you can to support them. 

Challenge #2: Leading People with More Expertise
Sometimes, leaders are brought in for their people skills or strategic vision rather than technical expertise. This can be challenging when team members know more about the technical details than you do. The key is to use your role to empower their abilities rather than trying to compete with them. 

Strategies

·      Leverage Their Knowledge: Seek their input on technical aspects and clarify that you value their expertise. This builds credibility and enables you to lead effectively without needing to be the subject matter expert.

·      Promote Open Communication: Encourage regular discussions to allow for knowledge-sharing. Facilitate an environment where questions and ideas flow freely and demonstrate that you’re there to support their work.

·      Stay Committed to Learning: Continuously develop your knowledge in areas relevant to your team. Participate in workshops, stay updated on industry trends, and seek feedback. This shows a dedication to growth that helps bridge any perceived gaps in expertise.

Challenge #3 Leading People Who Are Smarter Than You
Intelligence takes many forms. Some of your team members might excel in analytics and strategic thinking or possess highly specialized knowledge. In such cases, your role isn’t about competing intellectually but facilitating a culture where everyone’s strengths are maximized.

Strategies

·      Be an Advocate for Team Success: Instead of focusing on individual achievements, champion the team’s collective intelligence. Emphasize shared goals and celebrate each person’s unique contributions.

·      Encourage Collaboration: Inspire your team to share ideas and problem-solve together. When intelligent individuals work as a unit, you create a resilient team better equipped to handle challenges.

·      Showcase Adaptability: Adaptability and resilience are essential leadership traits that often resonate with highly intelligent individuals. Share stories of overcoming obstacles, demonstrate flexibility in the face of new information, and actively engage in problem-solving. This conveys your strength as a leader committed to personal and team growth.

Ultimately, leadership isn’t about age, expertise, or who’s “smartest” in the room. I t’s about building trust, leveraging each person’s strengths, and guiding the team toward shared success. As a leader, your responsibility is to foster an environment where every team member feels seen, heard, and empowered.

Quote: "The greatest leader is not necessarily the one who does the greatest things. [They] are the ones that get the people to do the greatest things."  – Ronald Reagan

Question: How do you handle leading people older or more experienced than you?  Comment and share below; we’d love to hear from you!

The next blog in this series will focus on another leadership challenge of being the only woman in the room.

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to sharpen their leadership skills and navigate tricky situations, contact me to explore this topic further.

How Do You Lead Those Senior Than You?

Dispelling Myths of Authenticity (Authenticity series 4/4)

In this final installment of our authenticity series, we confront prevalent misconceptions that often color our understanding of authenticity. Let’s unravel the truth behind these myths.

Myth #1 – Authetncity means never changing your personality

A misunderstanding with being authentic is thinking that we must always be true to ourselves and display that version.  But, which true self is that?  Walt Whitman said, “Do I contract myself?  Very well then, I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes.”  To be authentically human is to exercise all our mini-selves, it does not mean resisting the evolution that occurs with personal growth.

New managers struggle when they define authenticity in strict terms.  When asked to make changes they may feel it is a stretch from their natural personality, and they equate that with inauthentic.  For example, a humble manager who values others’ ideas is told by their boss to be more assertive and sell their concept more aggressively.  That can feel fake.  Going against our natural inclinations can make us feel like impostors, so we tend to latch on to authenticity as an excuse for sticking with what’s familiar.  But as we advance in our careers, demands and expectations change, and we need to expand and develop new muscles and add more tools.   By viewing ourselves as works-in-progress and evolving our professional identities through trial and error, we can create a personal style that feels right to us and suits our organizations’ changing needs.  If we adhere too much to what we think and feel, it may counter what the situation demands, and we deprive ourselves of tremendous growth.  The aspects that are most challenging for us can teach us the most about leading effectively.  In an interview with Adam Grant, Indra Nooyi, Former CEO of PepsiCo shared advice that while you maintain your authenticity, do not expect others to accept 100% of who you are.  She talked about being the only female on executive calls, and all the men would talk about sports she did not follow.  The one sport she did follow, Cricket, nobody else was interested.  She decided to flex her authenticity and learn about other sports and get involved with sports talk with her coworkers before the meetings. She found that these efforts went a long way to building rapport and doing better business. Being able to bend to have stronger connections was quite valuable to her.

Myth #2: Authenticity gives you a free pass to behave however you want

Being authentic does not justify hurtful or self-centered and irresponsible behavior.  Some chronically uncivil people or those with disagreeable personalities like to say they are just being their authentic selves.  For example, you may yell at a teammate because you view yourself as prone to anger, but you do not have the right to unload your feelings on others whenever you want and in the way you want.  Family and friends may be able to handle that and will be there for us after sharing our short tantrums and emotional speedbumps.  You may be somebody who curses a lot and will want that same right in the workplace to express your authenticity.  But, we can be both authentic and respectful or agreeable to create harmony in the workplace.  Authentic leadership is about mastering the skill of being a shapeshifter.  Somebody can change styles depending on what the situation demands, without straying from core values and goals or relinquishing their genuineness.  It is not about the person who expresses themselves regardless of the impact they may have on others.  You must be mindful and emotionally aware of how your energy is radiating and how others are experiencing you.  

Myth #3: Authenticity means behaving the same way in every situation

We have a kaleidoscope of personalities and may activate specific personas under different conditions.  For example, when we are in performance mode, we present our most polished selves, showcasing our leadership prowess.  In learning mode, we experiment and accept failure as part of our growth journey. Authenticity can manifest differently in these varied contexts, and that’s perfectly normal.  Shakespeare’s famous words: “All the world’s a stage …and one man in his time plays many parts,” captures this reality.  Adapting your behavior to fit the situation does not make you fake or insincere; it demonstrates versatility.   Common sense says that we do not reveal every side of ourselves in every situation, but understand the context we are in and the style we can adapt because we have versatility.  You do not show up the same way in the board room when you give a briefing as you do with your family at a dinner party or the gym with your friends.  We have many facets, and while we are adapting to others, we are still always staying true to our values which is what authenticity is all about.

How do we know when you’re being inauthentic?  It happens when your actions diverge from your professed beliefs and values.  Like chameleons, leaders can adjust to better serve their teams while staying true to their authentic identities.

Quote of the day: "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."  - Dr. Seuss (Theodor Seuss Geisel) (alternatively attributed to Sir Mark Young and/or Bernard Baruch)

Q: How do you adapt your style to fit the context you are in but are still authentic?  Comment and share below; we would love to hear from you!

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to explore what authentic leadership means to them and develop their style, contact me to explore this topic further.

Which myths do you want to dispel?

Characteristics of an Authentic Leader (Authenticity Series 2/4 )

In the previous blog, we delved into the concept of authenticity and its benefits in leadership.   This article will explore the key characteristics of being an authentic leader.

Here are a few traits of authentic leaders:

1. Vulnerability.  Authentic leaders are unafraid to share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences honestly. They willingly expose themselves to emotional challenges but do so without compromising their credibility.   For example, as a leader, you do not want to say to your team, “I want to do this job, but it’s scary, and I don’t know how.”  That candor can backfire, and you can lose trust with people who want and need a confident leader.  Instead, you can say, “I may not have all the answers, but I want to enlist your support as we move forward together.  That approach creates team cohesion and invites the active participation of others.

2. Integrity. This is when your words are consistent with your deeds; otherwise, followers will never accept you as authentic.  Great leaders embody their beliefs and live them unfailingly.  As Ralph Waldo Emerson puts it, “what you do speaks so loudly, I can’t hear what you’re saying.” Words are superficial and prove who you want to be, while actions show who you are.

3. Be transparent and truthful.  As Dostoyevsky wisely observed, “Above all do not lie to yourself, the man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie, comes to a point where he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, so loses respect for himself and others.  And having no respect, he seizes to live.” People are more trusting when transparency and congruency of who you are on the inside are the same as how you portray yourself to the world; there is no secrecy or mystery.  When you operate with dishonesty, it can have a detrimental impact.  Nietzsche’s mentor, Ludwig Feuerbach said, “I would rather be a devil in alliance with the truth than an angel in alliance with falsehood.” Speaking truthfully allows for a more stress-free existence.

4. Self-awareness.  Authenticity begins with self-awareness: knowing who you are—your values, emotions, and competencies, as well as how others perceive them, are better equipped for success.  A study at the Center for Creative Leadership found that self-awareness is the primary quality that distinguishes successful leaders.  Moreover, research shows companies that employ professionals who exhibit high levels of self-awareness tend to perform better financially.  By looking inward and engaging in self-assessment, we can gain a deeper understanding of our emotions, beliefs, and strengths and improve our perception of those held by others. Regular reflection practice is important, whether through meditation, prayer, mindfulness, thinking, writing, or taking long walks to clear one’s head.  This allows us to step back from the whirlwind and set aside the preoccupation with task lists so the urgent does not take precedence over the important aspects of our lives.   Also, we can ensure alignment with our values and a deeper understanding of how we live our lives and engage with the world around us.  The more we know ourselves, the more authentic we can be.

5. Discipline.  Being an authentic leader requires more than just building self-awareness—we need to put it into practice, which requires discipline.  Making it a point to get feedback on our behaviors and being intentional about what we want to practice will help us.

6. Confidence and humility.  Having self-confidence and being comfortable in our skin are essential.  Knowing where we come from and who we are, and knowing how to use our backgrounds to build rapport with others. There is humility in connecting with all people.  Albert Einstein once said, “I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbageman or the university president.”  That statement reflects Einstein’s comfort with himself and his ability to be consistent in his various interactions.

7. Mission-driven & inspirational.  Knowing your deeply held crucibles and true north will help you stay on track so you can lead yourself authentically.  Similarly, a deep and abiding commitment to a company mission is integral to authentic leadership and business success.  According to a recent survey by EY and Harvard Business Review Analytic Services, 89% of executives said a sense of collective purpose drives employee engagement, and 84% said it leads to tremendous success in transformational efforts.  Some companies discover their mission early and others stumble upon it, but embracing a purpose will help with authenticity because it keeps you focused.  When you help your followers believe the mission is worthy, they will fight for you. 

6. Commitment to self-improvement.  To become more effective at motivating and guiding others, authentic leaders need to first focus on bettering themselves.  “Authentic leaders begin with the will and commitment within to work on themselves,” says Harvard Professor Nancy Koehn.  Abraham Maslow endorses the concept of individuals striving for self-actualization, which is becoming more complete by pursuing personal growth and peak experiences and realizing their potential. 

7. Balancing your internal understanding with your external feedback.  Leaders go on an inner journey of understanding who they are and what they believe and then matching that with their actions.  They also go on an outer trip, realizing that those actions have implications and will invite feedback from others.

We need a combination of listening to others’ opinions and having a strong enough understanding of who we are and what we want to be the final arbiters.  In Robert Keagan’s stages of adult development, self-authoring is about defining who we are, instead of listening to others’ descriptions of us.  We can distinguish the opinions of others from our thoughts and have an internal guide.  The next level of advancement is self-transforming - where your sense of self is not tied to a particular identity or role but is constantly created through exploration.  It is similar to the Buddhist concept of the evolving self.  In the words of E.E. Cummings “to be nobody but yourself in a world that is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the greatest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”  When you do not trust a leader it’s because there’s a gap between what they espouse and what they do.

Authentic Leadership means different things to different people.  While there are some common denominators, it is more about showing up in a way that lives your values and makes a positive difference in the lives of others.

Quotes of the day: “You can only find out what you actually believe (rather than what you think you believe) by watching how you act.” - Jordan Peterson

“Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you. - Dr. Seuss

Q: What characteristics do you think are most important for developing your authenticity as a leader?  Comment and share with us, we would love to hear!

The next blog in this series 3/4 will focus on how to be an authentic leader. 

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to explore what authentic leadership means to them and develop their style, contact me to explore this topic further.

Just What Does Authenticity Mean? (Authenticity series 1/4)

“Be yourself” is a piece of advice we have all encountered at some point in our lives.  But what exactly does it mean to be authentic, and why is it revered as the gold standard for leadership and navigating life successfully?

The term “authentic” traditionally referred to original works of art instead of copies.  It is about adhering to your true self and being transparent about who you are across all aspects of your life.  A core aspect of you shows up whether at work, with family, in your relationship, or among strangers.  There is something liberating about that consistent expression.  To be authentic is to be the author of your life, to write your story, and to direct your actions rather than feeling compelled to conform to others’ expectations or seek acceptance.

Good leadership requires authenticity

In Authentic Leadership, Author Bill George defined the concept as “understanding your purpose, practicing solid values, leading with your heart, establishing connected relationships, and demonstrating self-discipline.”  In essence, it involves neither projecting a fabricated corporate persona nor emulating the leadership styles of others.  It is being true to your origins, finding your unique path, and evolving into the person you are destined to become.

The Rewards of Authenticity:

In his book Tribe, Sebastian Junger shares the self-determination theory, which holds that humans need three elements to be content: competence in their pursuits, connection with others, and authenticity in their lives.  Introducing authenticity to the workplace is part of the whole person movement, integrating our internal and external selves.  Instead of concealing our values and experiences, we openly share them. Our values and experiences are not hidden but shared.   Otherwise, we risk donning a mask that exhausts us as we struggle to maintain the facade.   The bedrock of authenticity is being seen by others, enabling them to understand your beliefs and intentions.

Authentic leadership also bestows potent benefits upon others. When we are real, we create an environment that encourages authenticity in others.  Research by Vanessa Buote, as cited in the Harvard Business Review, suggests that most employees believe authenticity in the workplace fosters better relationships with colleagues, higher levels of trust, greater productivity, and a more positive work atmosphere.  Furthermore, a study in the Leadership & Organization Development Journal reveals that “employees' perception of authentic leadership serves as the strongest predictor of job satisfaction and can have a positive impact on work-related attitudes and happiness.”

The costs of being inauthentic: 

When we are inauthentic by concealing ourselves from others, the burden of making countless micro-decisisons to bury certain aspects of our identity becomes exhausting.  What we repress ultimately gets expressed; otherwise, we start to lose our way and act in contradictory terms.  Over time, we become strangers to ourselves, transforming into the very mask we originally intended to don temporarily.  When we limit ourselves and fail to bring our full version to work, we lose people’s trust, and our relationships weaken.  It could be challenging to shape the workplace with our vision when we are not forthcoming with it.  Moreover, relying excessively on external validation distorts our self-perception,  as Epictetus astutely noted, “personal merit can’t be derived from an external source.” We need to reconnect with our inner compass.

Authenticity is when we can engage the best and truest part of ourselves and be bold enough to show that side to others.  We can create great relationships at work and better lead our teams to more success.

Quote of the day: “The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.” -Joseph Campbell

Q: How do you define authenticity? When are you most authentic, and when do you find it most challenging? What does it feel like to be inauthentic? Comment and share with us; we’d love to hear your perspective!

[The next blog in this series 2/4 will focus on the characteristics of an authentic leader]

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to explore what authentic leadership means to them and develop their style, contact me to explore this topic further.